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These are some general BDSM terms  as well as veronica's defintions for fetish activities that are offered at her playspace. 


Aftercare: Emotional and physical care after a scene. Usually in reference to a Top taking care of a bottom but sometimes the reverse. Sometimes individuals who were not involved in the scene will be responsible for the aftercare. Aftercare is important to prevent drop. Aftercare needs varies from person to person. 

Age Play: A sexualized interaction where one person takes an older role and one takes a younger with a large age gap between. The relationship does have inherent power exchange, but the interaction is mostly typified by the reliance on someone (or being relied on) for safety and nurturance. Although the typical names used are “Daddy,” “Mommy,” “boy” or “boi,” and “girl”, these labels are not indicative of the chronological age of those playing but of their youthful exuberance or mentoring/nurturing demeanor. Further, a “girl” could be a female bottom or a feminized male bottom

Balloon Play -  Looners are those who are sexually aroused by playing with balloons. Looners are broken into two categories: poppers and non-poppers. Non-poppers take pleasure in the process of inflating the balloon and playing with it. Poppers enjoy inflating balloons only to pop them. 

Bastinado - caning or whipping of the feet

Beatdown - a form of impact play that involves the dominant punching and kicking the submissive. The dominant can be bareknuckled or wear MMA or boxing gloves. 

Blood Play: Any activity which involves drawing blood, or using menstrual blood.

Boot Worship: Can include kissing, licking, or caressing a boot when it is worn by a Dominant.

Bottom: One who receives the sensations in a scene and as a sexual identity one who prefers to receive sensations rather than give them.

Breath Play: Any behavior that controls a bottom’s breath, including “holding” it, choking, using ligatures, plastic bags, hoods, etc.


Brown Shower : the act of deficating on another person

Caning : impact play and corporal punishment that consists of the dominant using a can usually be made of bamboo, rattan, or wood on the ass, legs, back, knuckles,  or hands of the submissive.  Caning the knuckles or shoulders is less common. 

Cock & Ball Torture (CBT): A common form of genital torture which focuses on the male genitalia.

Competitive Wrestling:  these matches are an all-out attempt to win by both parties

Consent: In a BDSM context consent is the agreement to participate in a negotiated activity. Practitioners often stress that consent is what makes the difference between BDSM being play and it constituting assault. 

Cross Dressing: Dressing in the clothes of the opposite gender as a form of role play and/or humiliation play. Some clients will do this in the context of their relationships while many may do this as a solitary activity with or without any sexual component. Cross-dressing in the BDSM community may or may not be linked to transgendered identity

Cunt Busting :  a form of impact play focused on the female genitals. This can include kicking, slapping, and or punching the cunt. 


Dirty Foot Worship: the submissive sniffs, licks, and sucks on the dominants dirty feet. The dominant will either walk outside barefoot or put their feet in dirt. 

Dominant: A person who has (negotiated) authority over a submissive in a scene or relationship.

Domina: A female dominant who embraces a feminine gender role.

Dominant: A person who has negotiated authority over a submissive in a scene or relationship.

Dom: A male who is dominant.

Domestic Discipline (DD): Corporal punishment in the form of spanking and caning as a form of maintaining discipline.

Domination Wrestling : these matches are one-sided and the bottom gives very little resistance

Dominatrix: A female dominant. The term is usually used to describe a woman who does professional domination.

Domme: Shorthand for a dominant female; pronounced the same as ‘Dom.’

Drop: Physical or emotional exhaustion after a scene that can be experienced by both tops and bottoms. Most common after particularly intense scenes (even if the scene was enjoyed). Drop is often characterized by feelings of sadness, remorse or guilt, physical shaking or chills, crying and simple but profound exhaustion.

Dungeon: A location equipped for BDSM play that can be in clubs or in peoples’ homes.

Dungeon Monitors or Dungeon Master (DM): They are in charge of ensuring the safety and enjoyment of everyone.

Edge Play: BDSM activities that are considered more dangerous or intense than other forms of play. This is a highly subjective label that can vary considerably from person to person, as well as for a single individual over the course of many years, however, it often includes things like breath play, knife play, gunplay and scat play. 

Electrical Play or Electro-Stim: Any behavior requiring the use of an electrical toy, medical or law enforcement device—a common device used in the community is a violet wand, however, more crude devices such as stun guns or Tens-units can be used.

Emotional Masochist: A term for individuals whose masochism manifests through a sense of emotional pain, humiliation, or objectification rather than the reception of physical pain.

Facesitting: one person sits on or over the other persons face. A smother box may be used or the dominant can sit directly on the bottoms face. Facesitting and queening / kinging are not the same things. 

Facesitting Challenge: these wrestling matches can be fantasy, semi-competitive, or competitive. The only tap outs that gain you points are those that occur while you are facesitting your opponent. 

Fantasy Wrestling :  these matches involve the acting out of a specific fantasy the client may have. This may include specific holds, attire, locations or roleplaying. 

FemDom: Refers to female domination, usually in regards to relationships where a woman is dominant and a male is submissive.

Figging: The practice of placing cut or carved ginger root into the anus, vagina, or the urethra of the penis as an irritant or aphrodisiac.

Fire Play: The use of open flame during BDSM play.

Fisting: Insertion of the hand into the anus or vagina

Forced Feminization: A form of humiliation play in which a man may be consensually forced within a scene to dress in feminine clothing, wear makeup, get his hair done, or behave in a feminine way 

Forced Orgasm:  a form of control play were the dominant sexually stimulates the submissive to the point of them having an involuntary orgasm.  This can be done by using manual stimulation on the genitals (hand jobs or fingering) or using a vibrator or Hitachi. 


Foot Worship : can include sniffing, licking, and sucking on a dominants feetounds 


Foxing Boxing : fun and sensual form of boxing that can take place between two women or a man and a woman. Both people wear boxing gloves and either a bathing suite or lingerie.  Rules may vary, but at Veronica's Play Space there are 4-rounds, 3-minutes each. Body shots only. No kicking. No head shots. No wrestling. 

Genitorture: Playing in a painful rather than sensual manner with the genitals of another individual. This often involves tools like straps, needles and clothespins


Golden Shower : the practice of urinating on another person for sexual pleasure

Hard Limits: Boundaries set by top or bottom on behaviors/words/interactions that are non-negotiable.

Humiliation Play: BDSM activity that is designed to humiliate or embarrass the bottom for the purposes of sexual arousal. This may include verbal insults or comments but also situational or physical humiliation.

Impact Play: Striking the body usually with a hand (spanking), paddle, cane (caning), or whip or flogger (flogging/flagellation).

Knife Play: A form of play using a knife which may or may not involve blood play. Usually the knife or sword is used as an expression of dominance

Masochist: In the BDSM context, a person who is sexually aroused by pain

Mixed Boxing: a boxing match between a man a woman

Mixed Mutual Beatdown:  this is a mixed fight between a man and a woman that can include both parties wearing boxing gloves or MMA gloves as well as headgear, body punches, head punches, leg kicks to the genitals, legs, stomach, chest, and head, as well as hair pulling and various wrestling moves such as scissor holds and chokeholds. This is basically a mixed catfight. 

Mixed Wrestling:  a wrestling match between a man and a woman

Mummification: A BDSM practice in which the bottom is immobilized through the encasement of the body with rope, plastic wrap, duct tape, bondage tape or some other material that prevents movement. 

Needle Play: A BDSM activity that involves inserting medical needles under the skin; almost invariably a form of blood play. 

Objectification: A form of humiliation play in which bottoms take on the roles of inanimate or decorative objects within a scene (a chair , foot stool, or table).

Orgasm Control: Restraining oneself from reaching orgasm, usually by the command of a Dominant.

Over the knee spanking(OTK spanking) : the spankee over his/her knee and gives them an OTK spanking on their bottom this can be barehanded, paddles, straps, rulers,ect

Pain Slut: A colloquial term for a masochist

Play Partners: The individual with whom another person engages in BDSM activity morecommonly used for temporary, non-romantic, or non-D/s or M/s interactions.

Play Party: A gathering for individuals to engage in BDSM activity. The term is more commonly used for an event at a location not usually designated for BDSM such as private
residence or some rented location such as the ballroom of a hotel.

Pony Play: Roleplay where the submissive takes on the role of a horse or pony, often require the “horse” to pull carts, wear saddles and take on riders. Also there is specific gear for this type of play including tails, bridles and riding crops.

ProDomme: A female fetish providers who is the dominant in sessions. They are paid to host sessions. 


ProSub: A professional fetish provider who is the submissve in sessions. They are paid to host sessions. 


ProSwitch : A professional fetish provider who is both dominant and submissive in sesisons. They are paid  to host sessions. 

Protocol: A rule or set of rules in which kinksters agree to engage in.

Puppy Play: The submissive takes on the role of a dog, which often requires the “dog” to communicate via barking and growling, eat from bowls on the floor, and sleeping in a crate.

Pussy Torture (PT) : A common form of genital torture which focuses on the female genitalia.

Queening / Kinging: oral-genital and oral-anal contact that can occur during facesitting. 

Rainbow Play/Shower: BDSM activity that includes vomiting.


Race Play: this is considered a form of role play and to many a form of edge play. The dominant uses racial slurs, props, or clothing to humiliate and or dehumanize the submissive. This is not the same as someone be racist. 

Rape Play: A negotiated scene in which one person plays the role of forcing their partner to engage in sexual behaviors while that person plays as though they do not want to engage in the behaviors.

Rigger: A term for the Top in rope bondage.

Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK): An alternative ethical credo to “safe, sane, and consensual.” Often used by individuals who prefer activities that have higher degrees of risk.

Role Play: Taking on another identity not your own during a scene. There is usually a power differential in the interaction (teacher/student, maid/owner, mommy/boy).

Rough Body Play: BDSM activity that involves punching, wrestling, and kicking.


Sadism/Masochism (S/M or S&M): BDSM play which involves seeking or giving pain or humiliation

Sadist: In the BDSM context, a term for an individual who is sexually excited by the consensual application of force and infliction of pain.

Safe Call: A safety protocol used when someone is meeting a new play partner privately for the first time. It usually involves a phone call at a pre-arranged time to a pre-arranged person to let them know that everything is fine. If the call is not made, or if pre-arranged codes are not exchanged, the police are contacted.

Safeword and Signals: An agreed upon word that someone in a scene can use to stop an activity if it becomes too intense or they simply need to stop for any reason. Common safewords include red and yellow.  Sometimes actions are used instead of words when the participants are unable to talk or if the dominant or submissive is deaf.


Scat Play: BDSM activity involving feces.

Scene: A distinct period of BDSM activity or alternatively a reference to the BDSM community as a whole.

Service: A form of D/s or M/s relationship where the submissive performs daily chores and mundane tasks for the Dominant.

Semi-competitive Wrestling: These matches allow the client to provide some resistance, but not to take enough initiative to try to win the match.

Session: A term most commonly used to refer to a scene with a professional dominant.

Subspace: An altered state of consciousness characterized by varying levels of trance on the part of the Bottom. It is often viewed as the ‘goal’ of play and is often characterized by feelings of euphoria and other ecstatic experiences.

Switch: A person who can play either a top or a bottom role in a scene. Similar to bisexuality, switches do not always fall exactly in the middle of the spectrum, and often lean to one side or the other. Sometimes switches are the top in one relationship and the bottom in another, though people do also switch within the context of a given relationship. 

Tease and Denial : also called orgasm denial is the act of a dominant arousing the submissive close to climax then they reduce the stimulation or even stop, without offering the submissive the satisfaction of having an orgasm. 

Tit Busting: this is a type of impact play that focuses on the breasts of either the male or female bottom. It can include slaps, punches, or kicks. 


Tribute: and act, statement or gift that is intended to show gratitute, respect, or admiration. 

Waxing: Not usually a painful way of removing hair but in the BDSM context involves pouring candle wax on the body, sometimes focused on the genitalia. BDSM practitioners need to be careful about which kinds of wax they use for these activities. Waxes that melt at lower temperatures are preferred.

Workout Session: this is a voyeuristic session in which you watch a someone workout or do in the gym training.